I finally realized that Chris is so stressed that he cannot put mine or Kirsten's health ahead of anything else like he used to. Yesterday my hip was hurting so I asked him to tie my shoes. My family willingly does this for me sometimes. He tied the first one and did the double bow/know thing. When he got to the second shoe, he could not tie it even in the regular way. He got confused. This is scary. How do I not make a big deal about this and yet find out what's wrong?

The other thing is that when we took K to the doctor about her asthma and GERD symptoms, and she showed him where she has pain when she eats--he said the location indicated what might be an ovarian cyst. The only way to diagnose that is to go to a GYN and have an ultrasound--when we have insurance. He said putting her on a low dose birth control pill might help the pain. She's not sexually active. If she were or planned to be, I wouldn't have any qualms about putting her on the pill. But there can be long term implications for women being on the pill for so many years like stroke and cancer and so on.